Welcome, and thank you for joining me as I weave me way through this maze of my own creation. I'm trying either to figure it out, or to learn how to stop trying to figure it out.
I've always been a story-teller. When I was three and four years old, my preschool teacher told my parents that she'd often find me with a group of other children gathered around while I told them stories. Soon after that I started writing "books"-- typically, this was pieces of computer paper folded and stapled together, on which my mother would write out a narrative that I dictated to her and then illustrated. When I learned to write, I made the books without help. Then I started writing in journals at age seven. And I just haven't been able to stop.
So I'm here now, telling the story of my relationship with Gerard, and my life and perspectives in relationship to that union. The story began in the late summer of 2008, when eHarmony matched us up and we had a magical first date. Since then, there has been a lot of magic. There's been a lot of staring-deep-into-each-other's-eyes. There's been a lot of helping-each-other-succeed. There's been a lot of really, really awesome sex.
There has also been tough stuff. There's been the realization that our love is not perfect. There's been the realization that we're both stubborn and we're both unusually sensitive, which doesn't help us out when we've got a conflict on our plate. And there has been the realization that our love and commitment to each other are more powerful than the fear and defensiveness that creates our arguments, which is sometimes surprising, sometimes scary, and often immensely comforting.
Gerard and I are creative, artsy people. We're people who like to ask questions and avoid following the grain. We're fairly kinky, and have explored dominance, submission, and spanking in our intimate life. We're slower than most of our Facebook friends when it comes to getting married and having babies. We have a fair number of things in common, and we have that "click" that a lot of couples can relate to-- but we're also very different from each other in a way that I appreciate.
If you stay and read here, and I hope you do, you will find my writing to be emotional and detailed. I will write about happy things and uncomfortable things. I hope to write about erotic moments, romantic moments, confusing moments, momentous moments. I relish comments and discussion, and I'm open to answering any questions that may arise.
Thanks for being here, and I hope that you find a reason to stay!